3 Ways I Knew He Was "The One"

One thing that came up a few times in our last open Q&A was how I knew that DeQuan was the one.

For me, it wasn’t a single moment. It wasn’t love at first sight (although I will admit that I was immediately attracted to him). It wasn’t that I woke up one day and suddenly knew. While I did know way before then that I loved him, it wasn’t until our senior year of college that I really knew that we would spend the rest of our lives together. It took time and really learning and getting to know each other before I knew that forever was in the cards for us.

Here is how I knew that my husband was the one:

1. We shared values and goals regarding our household and family: For me, this was a big one. I’ve always known I wanted kids, so naturally, I wanted a spouse who wanted kids as well. Similarly, DJ and I had the same goals for our family from early on and shared the same values in terms of how we wanted our family to be structured and our household to be run.

2. We loved each other exactly as we were (without wanting to change anything about each other): Potential is great, but I didn’t fall in love with DJ’s potential. I fell in love with him exactly how he was. I knew he was the one when I realized that even if he never changed one bit, I would still want to be with him.

3. We genuinely enjoyed each other’s company, regardless of what we were doing: I’m an introverted extrovert. I enjoy other people’s company, but I also value quiet time and solitude. I also really love spending quality time with my man. I needed someone who understood that. DJ and I can be right next to each other, but both doing our own thing, sitting together in the same room in silence, and I still enjoy him company.

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